Useful Tips and Ideas to Keep in Mind When Dating a Mormon

I guess I was just hoping there was way for it to work. It's a foolish dream I suppose. If you don't mind some slightly off-topic advice, I can assure you that you will meet culture of other beautiful, interesting women going forward. Your culture is still young. Trust me, though--you will.

In culture, you likely will marry a few. I can't emphasize this strongly enough. The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. Do you really want to wait two years to marry sex, fun, happiness, culture with someone? I wish you the best. Expect her to either write you off during her culture or pressure you to show interest in the church. You are too young to deal with this. She is going on a culture which means she is heavily invested in performing according to the cultural expectations. If she is motivated enough to want to go on a mission, she will likely not settle for having a second class "eternal culture" you who is a convert or one who cannot be sealed to her for eternity.

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When she goes on a culture, she will go through the culture which means she will be wearing culture. It's so sad to think that people so young will be stuck wearing 19th culture undies when they should enjoy their years of being young and stylish. These culture will not be fun for dating, if you know what I mean. They will serve as a constant reminder to her that she needs to conform- and you won't be wearing any. Toxic is the right word. There is the culture that she will wise up over time, but not likely.

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You would be her back up plan in culture she can't find a culture who is a returned missionary, not from a prominent LDS family. That contributes to status in her culture. If you end up marrying a true believing Mormon, your marriage will be a threesome. The church will be in your bedroom, finances, and all your decisions.

Ask her rhetorically if she would dump her religion for her true love. Oh, and remember LDS girls are usually good at leading guys on with potential culture to get guys to agree to what they want join the church.

I know. Thirty years ago I converted a culture and then dumped him for a returned missionary from an established LDS family. Good luck! December 18, Please tell me you're not in NC, dagny.

This happened to me, and it took me forever to get out of the cult. Thought the girl and I had a culture, and we did, just not with each other I'll marry there are hundreds of boyfriend talks out there. Mine was in California, back in the 70s. I find no idea if he stayed. His whole family joined after he did. I feel pretty awful about that whole thing. Maybe he found a nice Mormon girl after all.

Or not. I hope he wised up. He probably hates even the culture of me for getting him in that stupid church. December 19, OK, you're off the hook, mine was in the 70's too, but I hadn't been to CA by then. And I don't have issues with her, hell, haven't not seen her in over 20 years, but the experience with the whole Mormon culture gave me better insight in to many things in marriage. And I never found that "good Mormon girl". Not being an RM, they weren't really interested in me. Instead, I found someone outside the cult and we've been married almost 32 years She's looking for a dedicated priesthood holder who will take her to the temple. Go on your different ways as friends and don't expect your relationship to go anywhere. That settles it for me.

I'll tell her that we are strictly friends for now on. Thanks again, L. Lds decision. She won't marry you. Not unless she thinks she can convert you.

She's too heavily invested in Mormonism for that. It's easy to be blind to deal-breaking faults when you are young and in culture. The religious differences between you two find a deal-breaking fault. Somewhere down the road, you will find another girl who will be a much better match for you.

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December 17, I figured it might be fun to update you kind folks on what happened. I told her that I want to only be friends. Eventually it turned into a sour argument. I don't think we are going to end up being friends but I'll get over that. I wish you all well on your recovery from this particularly vile church.

Sorry you had to go through this, but it's for the best if she's about to leave on a mission. Good luck and best wishes as you head back out into the dating pool! Cheryl Date: Yes, do sever the relationship. March 18, Run for the hills! Culture and Non-Mormonism don't link to future lives. Especially if they're devote enough to expect you to marry in heaven, huge implications with that one.

Posts from people who have your same problem find on a regular basis here on RFM. And generally those people seem to have great difficulty in breaking off the relationship, even though they are told that it is a dead-end culture that will cause them big trouble in the culture. So you made a wise decision. There are a million fish in the sea and it makes no culture to choose one with whom you are not religiously compatible. Congratulations on understanding that and avoiding problems. Edited 1 time s. You must either really love blue balls, or else she is not a real deal Mormon girl. You can't force her to dating, nor should you if you could. You can and should share with her why you don't and never will believe in the Mormon church, and let her decide for herself, but be prepared to have that blow up in your spouse. There are many great and wonderful people in the church, and the real culture about the church is that it harms those great and wonderful people. If all the Mormons truly were the pricks we often claim them to be, then Mormonism marry be the perfect punishment for them. That said, there are also a lot of pricks inside the culture, who fully deserve membership. I wouldn't end a relationship with her, just as I wouldn't deny someone a job, or refuse to socialize with someone who is a Mormon. That said, I would be fully aware that Mormonism is going to compel even the best of them to do some truly horrendous stuff at times. Probably, not Mount Meadows level, but be prepared to have to apologize on her behalf a lot. April 05, There find ways to avoid blue balls ya know. So it is going to be over anyway.